someone kissed me while i was drunk

Do Drunk Kisses Mean Anything (Yes a Whole Lot of Things) I dont remember details and have no sense of the time involved, what was said, what anything felt like, or even what I did during those images. Just a few nights ago, a new addition to our social circle got swept up in conversation with her, and she began acting aggressively. I just remember a series of images that do not seem real. But, with her being drunk, rough with me, and refusing to take no for answer, I realized that it might lead to a fight in order to escape. Oh ffs, helpful replies only please Pigman and zabbo. We have sex, again apparently. I still dont. Whoa! Ive decided to share my rape experience. I added that if she didnt remember what happened, shes a bigger danger to herself and others than I could ever imagine. Don't have an account? Someone I had shared laughs, tears, and great intimate times with that I trusted with my body and secrets. I can not remember what we talked about at all. I was extremely drunk and I dont remember much but someone kissed me in the club, only a few days ago. A few months after moving away, I came back to visit family and friends for about a week. I told her again that I was tired, and that now was not the time. I told her what happened, like I just told you, and thats when my gal pal said that word to me. Again, I realized I did not want to end up in a hospital and/or a jail cell with only a few hours to go before my flight back home. I have new friends, good friends, a new partner, and a better job that has brought some financial stability to my life. It probably didnt last more than 10 minutes, but it felt like hours in my head. Ive told some of them about what happened. My watch said it was about 4am. Sex has been a difficult issue for me since before I had any grasp of what it actually was or entailed. Add your answer to this question! Live and learn. She opened the door and I told her that I needed to talk. I had been drinking prior to the party and so by midnight I was very intoxicated. But I did. He advised me that one of my other friends (a woman) was very mad at me and I should avoid her, since I went home with a stranger the night before, and he had never seen anyone get so drunk from one drink. In fact, she started to use her strength to push my head towards her crouch. I really feel like kicking the **** out of him for what he done. Don't get comatose again. My first sexual experiences happened at an extremely young age, something that was not due to molestation or rape at the hands of an adult, but rather child-on-child sexual abuse initiated by an extremely close friend. In both cases, they listened attentively, and then responded in almost identical fashion, If you were on top, then it wasnt rape.. Or can you trust yourself to not do it again? female Web10 Answers - ( Newest, 22 November 2010) A female age 41-50, anonymous writes: As background, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years and were quite happy reader, FloridaCatGirl+, writes (22 November 2010): A Would you be making such a big deal of this if some random woman did it? WebHe's probably just attracted to you, and when you're drunk and your inhibitions are down it's a lot easier to act on that. I still dont know how to classify this. Its more likely that I got drunk and wanted it, isnt it? You likely know him better than anyone so how do you feel he will react? When you look around the culture, you see the idea of a woman forcing a man into sex as either not a bad thingbecause men are always supposed to be ready to goor that its physically impossible. Please call me. But, I still cant say it in reference to myself. I asked if she wanted to come along as well. I kissed someone while drunk, should I apologize? - GirlsAskGuys I was supposed to meet up with another friend at a local bar, and since it was a Friday, I went out early and had a few drinks beforehand. That, sadly, is a typical male reaction to trauma: anger instead of sadness. Don't take what people do when they're drunk as signs of bigger things. Take it as it is: they were drunk. I remember having my shorts and shirt still on and going into the kitchen. Sleeping naked, it was easy access for her to fondle me. From a guy in his late twenties who got black-out drunk: A few years ago I was at a small party with a few close friends and some other guests. Perhaps the answer is not to get as drunk when you are out. The booze provoked your brain. Ive been in horrible and great versions of such an arrangement. Yes, I know that drunken one-night stands happen. The worst is when sex is all thats there. Hopefully someone out there can take something valuable from my experiences. If a guy you like kissed you while he was drunk does he likes you I was sleeping behind a bush, about 30 miles from the bar and my home. We need to talk. I could hear the concern in her voice. At one point, she grabbed me and started giving me oral. The nightmares never left. Since it was a friends house, I decided to go ahead and fall asleep in the spare bedroom rather than continue drinking and get sick/embarrass myself. All I remember of that night beyond that point is a few flashes of an unfamiliar room, and two different women on top of me. Seems like unnecessary drama. She didnt answer and didnt return my message. This wasnt reality. Have a nice life!my final text to Jane. Unfortunately, I dont remember much of it, but I will do my best. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. The whole experience was extremely unsettling, not least because I contracted a rather painful yeast infection from her, and visited several doctors who all told me I didnt have an STD (VD, in those days). Not fully awake, I felt Jane cuddle and then start running her hands over me. I dont know if anything would have happened, but Id like there to be no more Polaroids in her collection. I just watched her walk out. reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): A For some reason, I decided to tell this story to two separate female partners in the time since. And then I knew that none of this was a dream, and that I had really just done this. I knew I had to have been drugged, but the concept of being raped by a woman didnt even enter my brain at this point, at least not consciously. My friend kissed me when I was drunk Hey everyone its me again I know I posted her a while back but I need to ask my friend kissed me while I was drunk but I I was 14 years old, and the girl was 16. My boyfriend doesnt trust me at all. If it was just a drunken kiss and a one time mistake I wouldn't want to know. Or can you trust yourself to not do it again? his gay friends) that you can easily be taken advantage of with no consequences. I take it the guy who did the kissing was also very very drunk. Should I tell her? On the floor were two used condoms that I do not remember even having on. I just started drivingno idea where I was going to go. The relationship obviously began deteriorating at that point, which only further exacerbated my paranoia and despondency. Because it was so early, I dont know what to do or who to call. I hadnt really absorbed what had happened yet. This time it was boy-to-boy kissing, next time it could be a stabbing, STD, robbery. I am disgusted at myself for kissing her back as she has been like my sister for over 15 years . Unfortunately, the guy bragged to my boyfriend's friends that more happened later - which it did not. Plus, such a complaint by her would fit the script of what normally happens: man attacks woman, right? I didnt deserve to be treated like this. find me on and follow me on, tagged in Kids As I am filling up a glass, I remember talking with a girl in the kitchen. The kisser has a liking for you unless you take the first step. I'm saying that it would be more mature to know that you will be in a position to be compromised more easily and so take steps to avoid that, ie by not drinking so much that you are not in control of yourself and in danger of passing out. Once everyone sobers up there's usually much awkwardness and embarrassment. I became afraid that she would leave or that I wouldnt want to follow, and I began coping by drinking and closing myself off. Also, I thought if the cops were called she might turn the situation on me, claiming I raped her because there could have been evidence of the sex we had earlier that day. My childhood crush was kind of flirting with me, but hes a flirty guy so I ignored it. To make matters worse, when we had first started dating a guy got really aggressive and kissed me while I was also blackout drunk.Alcohol is NEVER an excuse, and this experience has made me realize I need to stop drinking altogether. More tears streamed down my face as I buried it in my pillow. There is so much wrong with this I don't know where to begin. He offered to give me a ride home, which I accepted. There are only victims. I Kissed Another Guy When I Was Drunk, Should I Tell My Boyfriend? I got about halfway through mine and we got up to do some dancing. As I said, I was exhausted. I woke up in the morning, confused, face down, and naked. Who knows what will happen the next time you are passed out drunk. Maybe not, but, I felt like I had few options. Bye! She said that in a cheery, normal, not-hungover-at-all voice and walked out the door. Whether that drunk kiss was intentional or unintentional, you are in a relationship I refused to answer, so she left a voicemail wondering where I was and why I left without saying goodbye. He bought me a drinksome sort of mezcal martini thats popular at that particular establishment. Eventually I find them and put them on, but they do nothing to remove the blurriness from my perception. I felt there were several possibilities, all of them equally bad. female Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. Things have gotten better now. I feel like I cant tell anyone. OP personally I know what I would do, I would kick the **** out of him. Two years have gone by, and Ive only told a few select peoplefriends, loversand they have been supportive. I tell her I need to go home. Should I Tell My Boyfriend I Kissed Someone Else When Drunk? That was not just my opinion; we were such an item that our friends referred to us as the old married couple, a moniker we took great pride in. Who knows what will happen the next time you are passed out drunk. If you approach them, there's no denying that you like My guy best friend kissed me when I was drunk and now I dont believe what you are telling me. I kissed someone while black out drunk - Infidelity - eNotAlone I have no intention of either because nothing good could come of it. Things (IOT). I had just graduated from university and was in a rut. This next reader didnt appear to be drinking a lot that night but was fast asleep when the incident began: I still cant bring myself to use the R word in reference to what happened. However, if the guy makes an issue out of it (which I doubt will happen) just tell him that your not gay. We can play Monday Morning Quarterback now, but that doesnt change the facts of what happened or how Ive been left to process this violation of my body and emotional trust at the hands of someone who I considered a dear friend. i can't believe you ran away from that worthless fag,you really should go back and beat the living sh1t out of him. Nothing changed. She invites me to bed. We often hear comments from people that get echoed in our media questioning the stories of victims or make statements about clothing choices, or other aspects, that these self-appointed authorities believe tempted someone into raping. If you know that this is the catalyst for flirting and cheating on your partner, then maybe dial things back a bit so you can look at a situation like the one thats passed with a clear head. She was on the edge of the bed getting dressed. Last week, my friend called me and she was incredibly drunk, so I rushed out to take care of her. Ive had other friendsladies, mostlysay yes, thats what Jane did. Theres not much in my life that I would like to eliminate from my memory, but the look on her face when I said those words is one of them. I'd tell your girlfriend what happened. Since she was drunk and unstable, I had no idea what she would do given that Jane was not willing to respect my pleading no.. My friend said she felt what happened to me was rape. I texted that I did not want to talk to her and I never wanted to see her again after what she did. Women have this happen to them all the time. I looked at her as I got back in bed. DAME: "Tell your girlfriend just to get it off your chest, then try and put it to the back of your mind and get on with your college work.". WebIf a guy kissed me when he was drunk, does it mean he has feelings for me, or it was nothing important? If it was a fella doing it to a girl there would be uproar. You forced me to have sex with you last night. I pushed them away immediately after realising what was I do not know how to respond to that statement. I had no shirt on. Instead, I say I was forced into sex because I felt I had no good exit given the circumstances. v5.00a - 0.38564s [RUM] 2023-08-19 04:56:27. But I cant help shake the feeling mentally that, other than her, nobody knows, and nobody would care if they did. reader, eternallyinfinite+, writes (22 November 2010): A If you know that this is the catalyst for flirting and cheating on yin and yang I wasn't even there! Perhaps the question to ask yourself is if he had done the same would you want to know? I tried to move my hands off her, but she kept grabbing me and putting them back on her body. The guilt eats me inside, if I tell her Ill be relieved but she will most likely Environmental Issues, Home Automation & Internet of My partnerthe longest relationship I had ever had at that point and a woman whom I loved dearlyhad graduated in the same class but was clearly bound for bigger and better things. I gathered my clothes, went back to the bathroom, got dressed, gathered my luggage from the other room, and left. Then I received a text; my flight out of town was going to be delayed an extra day due to weather. He then proceeded to make fun of me for being a lightweight. Im not. I was still a little unsteady, so I asked a buddy of mine to come pick me up for class. With my plane leaving in about six hours, I saw that scenario leading to medical treatment and/or legal problems for one or both of us. I've been the drunken student as have most of the people who posted here but after one evening when I drank too much, did stuff I wasn't proud of it made me realise that it was possible to enjoy myself without drinking way way too much. I preface the story with this information to let you know that this is not a clear-cut tale of woman rapes man. It is confused and messy, an experience that cant come down to a simple act of someone else exerting their power over my person. I would have to send the message out that this will not be tolerated on me. As soon as I was done, I got up, went to the bathroom, splashed some cold water on my face, and tried to gather myself mentally and emotionally in the mirror. I just hope that this story is helpful in some way. I sat down, got something to drink, and wrote in my journal. We neither speak nor acknowledge each other, though my friends are close to her. Its a complicated subjectone that has no easy answers or identifiable parties to blame. WebKissing that guy wasnt your motive. I started having lots of nightmares on the subject, however, and didnt realize it was rape until I tried to argue against someone that it wasnt and realized I couldnt defend my position. For a start there's a severe anti-gay tone to it. I wasnt turned on. My 23M friend 24f kissed me 1hr ago while she was drunk . I am It was Thursday night, and a few friends and I went there because I didnt have to go into school until very late on Friday. Would you be looking to kick the crap out of her? Only my wife knows and sympathizes. female Some days, I feel trapped with this horrible memory. Time didnt seem to move correctly. Interaction, Climate Change, Sustainability & At the time, I felt like it would prolong the problem and I would have to deal with the fallout of this horrible night from two timezones away. That'll be the best way to get it out of your system. I was living in Orlando at the time. I also know that when I think back on this I am equal parts angry, disgusted, and disappointed that I didnt stop it. After giving her the oral she demanded through her vice grip on my head, I faked an orgasm after a few minutes of doggy-style sex just to get it over with. She had several things going for her that I found attractive, such as her interest in the arcane and odd as well as art, music, and a dark sense of humor. I told you NO but, you wouldnt stop.. I dropped out of all my social circles, deleted Facebook, and didnt leave the house for about three years. If a person slipped up once in a relationship and kissed But then again, isnt that just another version of blaming the victim? WebIf you were so drunk that you couldn't exercise the good judgment to not kiss the guy, you couldn't have exercised good enough judgment not to get behind the wheel of your car. I didnt recognize the apartment, or the futon where I was sitting upright, my genitals exposed, my pants around my ankles. Eventually, after a long time, it went away on its own, with me completely ignorant of what it was until many years later. I recognize chances are slim I'll be forgiven, but I love him dearly and could not be more regretful of the choices I have made. The dream doesnt end, and thats when I start to be afraid. 885 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. I went inside, showered, and got ready for class. Do you think he will try and work through it with you or do you think he will walk? Web#1 They are attracted to you You're ranking in the game of attraction. It must about been 1am when I slipped into Janes bed. I kissed a guy when I was drunk, told my boyfriend and now I don't I Kissed Another Guy When I Was Drunk, Should I Tell My Boyfriend? I would avoid him completely, and if he made an off colour comment about it in the future, then you should make it known then how revolting it was! boyfriend Everyone has the right to get drunk without being taken advantage of. But where can a young man go when hes facing a situation like mine? My rapist is still in our town, and I see her regularly. Wed chat from time to time and maintained a presence in each others lives because, like I said, we enjoyed each others company and the sex was great. My guy friend kissed me when he was drunk! - GirlsAskGuys I agree. I feel absolutely sick to the stomach that this happened and cringe everytime it replays in my mind.